This past week, I realized one of my biggest fears. I can see now how this has been stopping me from taking the next step in my business as a woman. You see, so many of us have this fear and yet it can be hard to identify because we get very good at hiding it under the “Nurturing” umbrella when in fact it really falls under the “Over Compensating” umbrella.
I am talking about the fear of not being needed. I realized this fear has kept me from sharing my truth and has actually given me a place to be NEEDED instead.
When I asked my FemmeTypes where this was coming from my Frenchie very loudly spoke up. It has been her fear for some time: The fear of not being needed by someone. This fear is so strong that in my past, I have created emotional bonds that weren’t healthy. In fact, they were co-dependent. I had the NEED to have others NEED me.
I want to share with you how you can release this in your own life, because if you are holding on to being NEEDED you are stopping yourself from expanding into who you are really meant to be and your soul NEEDS that!
- Identify if you have created this in your relationships. The best way you know for sure is if you find yourself saving people, being the mediator in relationships, and trying to pick up all the pieces to make sure everyone is “OK”.
- Ask the tough question “Why am I afraid of not being needed?” What does it mean to you if you are not needed? For me it felt like I would be obsolete, discarded, unimportant. It is crucial for you to be real with your answer, though this may sting.
- Allow yourself to honor your truth. Creating emotional blackmail so we can be needed is not a powerful place for us to come from as women. Instead talk to your Frenchie and secure your relationship with you. As scary as it feels sometimes, that is the relationship you NEED.
If you are afraid of not being needed you are impacting your ability to live a sensual life. Sensuality brings freedom and liberation, free yourself from the fear of being needed and watch how your Frenchie will soar.
